Pay attention to scale when letting children perform in public
“Baby, tell your aunt, what is three plus one?”
“In front of relatives and friends, Mom asked expectantly.
The 2-year-old said nothing and still played with the blocks.
“Baby, go ahead.
“Mum continued to inspire patiently.
“I’m building a house!
“The baby answered differently.
The mother was both annoyed and confused: Just now, when only the two of them were in the room, the baby answered the question accurately and loudly, but now . Baby: Why refuse to perform in public.”First resistance period.”
At this time, the children begin to realize that self-existence, and the consciousness of independence is quickly emerging and revealing, and they can clearly express their intentions.
Say what you love to do: “I will, I will do it myself.
“When an adult asks him to do something, always answer” No. ”
In addition, two or three-year-old babies still have a relatively low level of attention. They only pay attention to seeing, listening, and talking about things they are interested in. When he falls in love with a game or toy, it is easy for him to immerse himself in his own.Xiaotiandi entertains himself or talks to himself.
Unless they are more interested in it at this point, it is difficult for them to be distracted.
In addition, some babies are also more introverted, shy, and do not like to be popular. When he faces a lot of people who are not so familiar, he will be silent and timid.
Parents: Why are you keen to perform in public and let your child perform this in front of relatives and friends? Performing that is not to show off, so it is good for your baby’s physical growth, and allows him to practice without fear of life and increase self-confidence.
It is understood that the baby’s cognitive development level is still relatively low, and unintentional attention and image memory have absolute advantages. It is necessary to continually consolidate some knowledge and skills through repeated practice. Public performance is an effective way of training.
The process of your baby performing in public is also a process of interacting with others, which is very helpful to your baby’s social development.
However, too high or too much public praise will also make the child vanity, serious pride and complacency, and even lead to poor mental capacity.
Some young parents continue to threaten and seduce after the baby refuses to perform in public.
Over time, children are also prone to injustice in intimidation and refusal, fear and other negative emotions, and become timid and obedient.
Tips: The key to performing in public is that asking the baby to perform in public is not a bad thing in itself. The key is that parents must adjust their mentality and not perform for show-off. Therefore, the “baby-oriented” principle is necessary.
”Baby-oriented” first means respecting your baby’s intentions.
Parents are better off asking their baby for advice before asking their baby to perform in public.
In this way, even if the baby refuses, the parents will not be able to go down the stairs.
If it is rejected, parents must control their emotions. Even if they are angry, disappointed, they cannot be angry, nor can they be reluctant. At best, they will discuss with the baby if they are ready to perform next time.
Also consider your baby’s temperament.
For children who are active and willing to express themselves, parents only need to provide a small number of opportunities to perform in public.
There is a lot of limelight, and this kind of baby is easy to float.
Children who are shy and timid and who like to hide should be more guided and mobilized to encourage him to stand up and perform in public.
Regardless of whether the performance is wonderful, praise it in time to reward him for his courage and enhance his confidence.
The status of your baby is also important.
When he is concentrating on a recognized activity, or is in a bad mood, it is obviously inappropriate to perform in public.
You should make this request while your baby is in a high mood, and you can often get his intervention easily.