Office sanity over emotion
Sometimes, you really don’t see the past and feel the price of being unfair, and you really want to cause temper, but in order to take care of your face, you can barely bear it.
And you know that the problem is still not resolved, and the anger and dissatisfaction are still in my heart, which may be detonated at any time.
Unfortunately, when you turn around and see a guy full of resentment snarling at you, he unconsciously grows his voice louder and louder, and decibels rise higher. At this time, your possible response is-Scared and overwhelmed?
Turn around and walk away?
Or furiously fight back?
Most people consider quarreling and neglecting taboos in the office. Emotional reactions such as anger, noise, frivolity, grief, worry, crying, etc. should not appear in the workplace.
Because losing your temper may be effective, but it is also very dangerous. It may be that you build more enemies.
We always believe in one thing: the office should be a calm, sane place, and those who are emotionally excited should not be present in the office.
But if you observe, it is easy to realize the stress, frustration, misunderstanding, transformation, poor communication and other emotions at work, and they are hidden in every corner of the workplace.
Two psychologists in the United States have conducted investigations on some office workers, and found that more than 70% of them admitted that they had been angry, worried, crying, or choked in the office.
For these office workers, this is a “secret” experience. They do not want to be known to others, so as not to make themselves very contradictory and urgent.
But in fact, conflicts are human nature, and teaching office workers “don’t cry” and “don’t be angry” doesn’t help us solve the problem.
Although disputes are a kind of risk, if they can fully grasp the skills of expressing anger, it is actually a good opportunity to learn and communicate, which can help both parties understand the mistakes and improve the relationship.
Sometimes emotions and intellects do not have to be antithetical and interact.
And what do we usually get angry about?
Anything is possible.
Your work partner’s diminishing progress makes you flaunted; you may interact with people in the business department because of different positions; you may also fight with others because of variables, or even use the conference room to stand still with others.
However, no matter what the conflict is for you, after the anger incident, you must help yourself to find errors, solve problems, and make each other’s relationship more clear. This kind of dispute can be called benign communication.
When conflict is unavoidable, you may wish to hinder the office’s “rule of quarrel”: any dispute is caused by a cause, and cannot be used as a topic to deliberately create a dispute.
Unless you’re a politician, it’s best not to express your religious and political alternatives in the office.
It must not be physically conflicting with anyone. Unless it is for self-defense, it is definitely the craziest act.
Don’t touch the most sensitive topics of others.
For example, someone cares if someone calls him a “fat”, but you do n’t know what to do. Even if the other person knows you are joking, he still hates you.
Don’t reveal your deep-rooted prejudices or ideologies, such as racial likes and dislikes, sexism, etc. Often, various disputes will make you a target of public criticism and serious death.